Over the past few posts, we've talked about change and why it can be so hard. We've talked about the role that the subconscious plays in change, now let's talk about the role you play.
To begin, let’s take a look at a few different scenarios and tell me if they are empowering or disempowering:
I’m not happy where I work because my boss is an idiot or they don’t see the value I bring.
I’m not happy where I work, what can I do to demonstrate the value I bring…..or….what do I need to do differently?
I can’t run errands today because it’s raining.
It’s raining, but I’m not going to let that stop me from running errands.
I’m so messed up as an adult because my father wasn’t around to show me how to be a man.
Although my father wasn’t around for me growing up, it’s made me a better man and I’m going to be the best father I can be to my children.
That's right in every scenario above, the first instance is a disempowered position.
When you are making EMPOWERED decisions, you are what we call at cause. You influence and take Response-Ability for what happens in your life and how you respond to events.
When we have problems we can easily slip and become disempowered, with events that occur, like a bad breakup, bad childhood, problem with our employer, and allow these events to control us.
When we're disempowered, we are not in control, we’re at the effect of an event and all we have are reasons why we have the problem.
We use the events as an excuse or reason for our current situation and don’t realize that...
WE are the common factor in every problem we experience.
We don’t see the relationship between the problem, issue or pattern to ourselves.
A few years back, I found myself in a very bad personal relationship; I felt crippled and beat down.
There is absolutely no question the behaviors of my ex-partner were inexcusable, however I allowed it to go on and accepted the behavior for years, until I finally said enough is enough, this is not how I want to live my life.
I also found myself knowing that regardless of what had occurred, regardless of how I got there, I needed to change something about me. This was taking responsibility, this was being empowered, and this was being at cause!
In a Personal Breakthrough Experience, we help you see the relationship between yourself and the problem, issue or pattern you’re experiencing. We help you gain learnings and new perspectives, so you are empowered, and you are in control of your results.
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